Thursday, May 3, 2012
Yep, I really, really hate bugs. And getting my hands dirty. And bugs. However, I encountered both last week for the sake of America's highways and learned a valuable lesson. Did I mention I despise bugs? Ewwww!
Let me explain.
One major goal in moving back to Iowa was to be more community-oriented. Fortunately, that is easy to accomplish in my hometown. The transformation in recent years to restore the vintage charm of my Mayberry-ish surroundings is an inspiration. As a result, there are numerous organizations set on preserving the area, one being the HCI Care Services of Southern Iowa, formerly known as Hospice of Central Iowa.
As a last-minute request by my best friend's mom, lovingly known as Mama K, I joined this group of dedicated volunteers and staffers to pick up trash along the tick-filled ditches of US HWY 2 as part of the Adopt-A-Highway program.
Funny enough, my crazy imagination started weaving stories with each step. While I hated every minute my rubber gloved-hand touched the filthy remnants of Ringgold County residents and visitors, I also started to wonder about the "throwers."
Dirty diaper - was the thrower a single mom trying to get to work before dropping off her baby with a kind-hearted neighbor for the day? Casey's pizza container and Mountain Dew bottle - a quick lunch for the traveling salesman just trying to keep food on the table for his family back home? While I by no means encourage people throwing out their trash (especially after this experience!) I realized I shouldn't be so quick to judge, especially as I myself battle with each move serving as a direct reflection of who I am.
After eight years in Chicago as one of a million, I've returned to an area where I'm still remembered as the short Asian farm girl with long pigtails, homecoming queen from a million years ago and/or hometown globetrotter. While these are all part of who I am, I'm now being faced with recreating an image as a 30 year old woman who moved back to her roots... while being drilled every 30 seconds on why I moved back, when I returned and what I am doing... all questions I continue to ask myself on a regular basis. Fortunately, I have the most amazing friends and family in the area, which reminds me why there is no place like home.
So much like the ticks I found clinging to me after this former prissy city girl crawled in the ditches of Americana (still shuddering!), I realized that each step you take may result in something attaching itself to you. Either I can be negative and think about the disgusting bugs or I cam consider the "takeaway" to be the memory of helping a worthwhile cause do something positive for its community.
"Time it is a'TICKin' -- make sure you stop making rash judgements and put yourself in others' shoes before forming an opinion, and remember that the people and experiences you surround yourself with are a direct reflection of who you are. Ask yourself: do you like what you see in this reflection?
...and most importantly, please don't litter! I really, really hate bugs...
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Next, return to extraplusordinary.com as I share how this old dog can learn new tricks. On a regular basis, I’ll share how you can continue to add some extra to your ordinary.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
This year has taught me more about myself than ever imaginable. Look out for the February 3 post, but I'll give a few updates:
1) Risk isn't as scary when someone believes in you with all his/her heart - warning - BIG ANNOUNCEMENT COMING YOUR WAY!
2) Compromise isn't a dirty word. In fact, I'm delaying my Locks for Love donation because the BF likes my long hair. It will still be cut, but I'll give it a few more months so the new 'do won't be quite so short
3) Not all paths lead to a happy ending, but the fork in the road may not be seen without the adversity that led you to it.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
From visiting three new countries, experiencing the irrational stress from the first Christmas with the sig other's family to crossing off four more goals, expect some stories soon that will garner a few laughs and a lot of eye rolling.
Cheers to you in 2012!
Monday, August 29, 2011
I admit, posting on Extra+Ordinary hasn't been a top priority lately, but it has indeed been on my mind. So what has taken up my time? Here's the skinny:
Goal #2 - Travel to a new country.
Goal #3 - Skydive. COMPLETE!
Goal #15 - Stop biting my nails
This was only a short term success. While I'd like to say this one is complete, I still need to work on not taking stress out on my fingernails. Not only is a disgusting habit, but the germaphobe in me is repulsed! :)
Goal #21 - Make fourth donation to Locks of Love
Getting closer! I could technically cut it in about a month to reach the 10 inch donation, but as some of my faithful readers know, I love Halloween parties... this year's costume may be best with longer locks... for a good cause, of course! :)
And here's a shout out to my friend Nick. Within a two week period, he lost his father and turned 30. What makes him extraordinary? Nick turned his epic 30th birthday bash plans into an Alzheimer's fundraiser - the disease that took his dad and many other of his family members. Here's to the birthday boy w/ a heart of gold.
Til next time,
Monday, July 11, 2011
For those international readers who may be unaware, the late Betty Ford, former U.S. First Lady and equal rights activist, was deemed a pioneer in admitting her flaws to better the world, as seen with the renowned Betty Ford Center.
Sometimes I wonder if we are partially flawed because we can't fix what we don't openly admit is broken. While I like to consider myself a creative saver with my finances, for a long time I tried to "keep up with the Joneses," to prove that the small town girl could "make it" in the city. As a result, I think back to a few nights where a walk vs. a cab ride and dining-in instead of dining-out could have resulted in my savings account having a few extra dollars instead of my waistline having a few extra inches.
Bottom line: I used money as a crutch to enhance my image instead of becoming more comfortable and confident in myself as a person. Fortunately, my current paycheck allows for a few luxuries, but that doesn't mean i shouldn't continue to "cut corners" when possible. Now, as I save up to build a weekend house and payoff my student loans early, I am once again reevaluating my spending habits. A few tips that have helped me:
1. Putting funds into perspective. While I wouldn't change the trip home last weekend for Independence Day with friends and family for the world, I must remember that holiday spending should be much different than everyday spending. The $580 spent on the trip to Iowa for four days is about equal to five months of groceries or my mobile phone for seven months of cell phone coverage. Wowzers!
2. Next day purchases. As for non-service purchases, I try to find the deal and then make a purchase the next day when possible. You wouldn't believe how many things I've talked myself out of buying in that 24 hr time frame.
3. Will it impact the price of gold in China? In other words, will the purchase actually make a difference? Does a new pair of earrings really impact how I'm perceived? Will the upgraded car rental do anything but guzzle more fuel? If I can't truly justify the cost, then why spend the money?
Here's to admitting when I need to reevaluate and redirect areas of my life, and more importantly, here's to the people who serve as a "cautionary tale" to benefit those around them.
Thank you, Betty Ford.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
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Sunday, May 8, 2011
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|Final Match - 2010 FIFA World Cup South Africa|
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Thursday, April 14, 2011
...and by grounded, I'm referring to no major trips planned in the near future. While O'Hare is probably sending condolence flowers to my family after noticing my sudden absence, a number of friends are traveling this weekend and have the dreaded task of packing before them.
Packing was once a necessary task that would unfortunately result in at least one missing item upon my arrival. To add some extra ease to your ordinary packing, here are a few tips I've picked up over the years:
1) Carry a few extra baggies in your suitcase. From leaky shampoo to receipts, they can help make your return home hassle-free.
2) Type up the "musts" for every trip, such as a phone charger, toiletries and important documents. This will make it easier to check them off before each trip vs. starting your list from scratch each time.
3) My friend Nicole taught me this on my very first work trip to Washington D.C. - consider your color palates. If you have three outfits with blacks and grays, don't make your fourth in browns... you can cut your accessories and shoes in half.
4) Double check your luggage handles, zippers and wheels before each trip. It may save you a big hassle during your trip. Nobody wants to see their unmentionables scattered on the tarmac or be forced to buy an expense, ugly but essential replacement bag in the terminal.
5) If you plan to bring back souvenirs, make sure you have room in your luggage or have an extra bag for the return flight. I've even went as far as taking a pair of shoe on their last leg... enjoyed them for my trip's last leg and then tossed them before heading back to the States.
To those of you heading to the friendly skies this weekend, safe travels!
Monday, April 4, 2011
- Everyone makes mistakes, but the best of the best people learn from them…and it shows
- Life is not a checklist (yes, even I embrace this now!) – while checklists help you meet a goal, it take time, energy and love to keep the best things in the best condition
- The uncertainty isn’t as scary when you are loved
- Having fun is far more important than always being proper
- You’re at the steering wheel regardless of which way the road turns. At the same time, embrace that greater powers that can keep you on the right path
Friday, March 18, 2011
1. Remove mobile insurance - I pay $6/mo to insure my phone, but I'm already eligible for a new phone under Verizon's new-every-two plan. As a result, if anything happens to my existing mobile, I can get a new one free, so why pay for the insurance, which will cost me about $85.00 USD for the deductible if used? NEXT!
2. Turn off electronics - call me weird, but we all know that electronics are power suckers, so I've started unplugging everything in the morning while I brush my teeth. Either I stand in the mirror looking at myself (boring) or I take 30 seconds to save myself some green while being green.
3. Bring coffee to work - By bringing my coffee or waking up in time to enjoy a cup of joe on the balcony before work, I'm (on average) saving about $25.00 a month. If I do buy, McDonald's coffee is on $1.11 (including tax) vs. the $4.00+ on Starbucks. I'm obviously partial to McD's, but seriously, as a black-no cream-no sugar gal, I'm just not a fan of Starbuck's overroasted aftertaste (to each their own).
Share you tips, if you would, and have a great weekend!
Thursday, March 17, 2011
While my paycheck is larger than ever, so are my expenses and the amounts earmarked for future purchases. To shave some corners this year, I revamped my budget dramatically. Here are five ways I'm cutting back in 2011:
1. Getting rid of home phone - I have HORRIBLE mobile service in my apartment, so a land line was a must. However, by setting up a Skype account and taking advantage of the better signals while walking to/from work, this will only be a slight inconvenience, but a savings of $12/month.
2. Early bird-ing it - After-work drinks, dinners, mani/pedis and movies w/ pals add up fast. My friend Mel and I started doing breakfast instead. Not only is it usually less than a dinner, but the morning eliminates cancellations from late nights in the office or other evening commitments. I'm also taking advantage of weekend matinees - usually a few dollars less than an evening ticket.
3. Cleaning house - An empty bookshelf was sitting in the corner of my living room and the bar stools from my last apartment were just a tad too high for my island. Thanks to Craigslist, they now have new homes and I have a few more bucks in my pocket.
4. Meal planning - My grocery list is more organized than ever. By planning out my meals each week, I'm able to save money while keeping my calorie count down... great for the wallet and the waistline! Speaking of which, I'm now down 8 lbs from the beginning of the year! 1999 dress - watch out! (#4)
5. Walk this way - After a hard look at my monthly expenses, I realized cab costs take up way too much of my entertainment budget. By doing a better job of utilizing public transportation, walking if the destination is under two miles and prepping my bike for spring, my 10% goal will be within reach!
I welcome any tips from the best readers in the whole wide world :). Also, check out my friend Nicole's blog for some solid, money-saving advice - http://thebudgetingbabe.com/.
Now if only I can win the office NCAA pool... :)
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
While I've definitely taken some chances in my life, there are a few things I tend to shy away from -- getting set up, spontaneity and disregarding etiquette. Sadly, being over/underdressed is a huge hang-up of mine, even as a child. That all changed in the past week as I embraced all life has to offer... after all, why not?
#12 - Do Something Out of My Comfort Zone
My friend Will scored four free tickets to Hair for opening night in Chicago last Tuesday, just mere hours before it started. In addition to great company and great seats, it was a great opportunity to step out of my comfort zone. For those not familiar with the production, it is deemed a sexual-charged, love rock musical set in the 60's. We took our seats in the sea of bell bottoms, daisy prints and headbands. In part to a work-related training course earlier in the day, I stuck out like a sore thumb in Ann Taylor head-to-toe - tailored black dress, ruffled cardigan and heeled Mary Janes (the closest thing to fit the musical's atmosphere!).
Without worrying what others would think and with the encouragement of one Michael M., I leaped on stage during the final act to "Let the Sunshine In." Inappropriately dressed - yes. Dancing badly - double yes. But as I looked into the sea of smiling faces, it felt good to throw caution to the wind and simply enjoy the moment as the stage lights beamed down.
Only a few days later, my friend Brian set me up for the very first time. While there were no sparks, the concert (The Parlotones) was fantastic, and the experience made me let my hair down (bad pun).
After these two instances, I can officially cross #12 off my list.
#14 - Do Something Spontaneous
Picture it - Chicago, Friday, 4:30 p.m. An old friend I hadn't seen since Christmas was in nearby Indianapolis for the weekend and asked me to visit. In less than an hour, I secured a hotel room, booked a car and drove over for a 12 hour visit. Silly - in fact, a hairbrain idea - as the drive alone (roundtrip) took six, but at the end of the day, what is life about if you don't walk through the doorways of opportunity instead of walking by them? Besides, it was the highlight of my week.
#21 - Donate to Locks of Love
For most of my childhood I could sit on my hair...it was that long. At about 15 I cut it chin-length; however, I realized how fast it grows. In true warm-fuzzies style, the 10+ inches cut each time thereafter were donated to Locks of Love. I've now reached three donations, but why not shoot for four? It should be possible by August or so... not sure when I'll actually cut it, but it is now an official 30b430 goal.
Unofficially, my other goal is to do a much better job of keeping Extra + Ordinary updated on a 3-4x/week basis.
Until next time,
Friday, March 4, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Fifty-six percent of you think this is a good idea. I'm starting to wonder about my fan base...
Here's to the power of the people!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
BUT... there were some unfortunate challenges along the way. A sick groom, flight delays, a guest with a death in the family, the MIA wedding coordinator… it wasn’t an easy road. However, this story has a happy ending.
Looking stunning as she flowed across the sand on her fathers' arms, Sarah was greeted by forty friends and family, as well as Kurtis, the lucky groom. As they joined hands in front of vibrant blue skies and the sparking sea, each was asked if they took the other's hand in marriage. While Sarah's response was a regal "I do," Kurtis burst out with an enthusiastic "YES!" to declare his love... and to the laughter of every wedding guest. For that shining moment, everyone forgot the bumpy path leading to that day and embraced the moment as they witnessed two people share their first kiss as man and wife.
How does this tie to Extra + Ordinary?
Simple - "yes" is a common word. You probably said it when the barista asked if you wanted cream in your coffee or when your boss asked for 10 minutes of your time. However, what makes the yes "extra" to your "ordinary" is the zeal and affirmation behind it, no matter how big or small the end result.
How many times do we make half-hearted decisions? I know it is a daily occurrence for me, but in order to have an extraordinary life, we must be passionate about what we do, how we do it and most importantly, WHY we do it. Is it for love? Is it for kindness? Is it for pleasure? Is it to get closer to a goal? Think about this when you come to the fork in the road.
It certainly impacted me in the past few days. I've approached a fork, one 29 years in the making. Where do I want to be in five years? What do I want to do? With whom do I want to spend my life? Options are bombarding me and each has its pros and cons, but it will soon be time to say yes to many changes - both scary and exciting - that will start a new chapter. Fingers crossed that my "yes!" responses are as full of fervor as Kurtis'!
Here's to each of you as you take a baby step or a giant leap into the next phase of your life and here's to the bride and groom! Wishing you an eternity of joys & smiles, a lifetime of hand-holding & heart-warming, and a never-ending list of exceptional memories.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
As much as many of us like to plan our futures, it is inevitable that sometimes things are decided for us. In this case, my April goal #12 (do something out of my comfort zone). My friend Mel signed up for Chicago's Shamrock Shuffle (April 10), as did her fiance; however, he signed up for both of them. As a result, she had an extra, non-refundable entry. Thanks, Mel and Ben!
This 8K (approximately five miles and a nice in-between mark from the standard 5k and 10k options) will not only make me try something new (remember, I'm the girl who could trip over a $2 bill in a parking lot), but will support goal #4 (get back to my age 17 body, proved by fitting into my 1999 homecoming gown. Six lbs. down, 22 to go). I'm not sure which one is more daunting!
Keep voting between the first and third options! I already ordered the bikini for an upcoming trip to Cabo for my lovely friend Sarah's wedding (six days and counting!), so that will conquer February's #4... if I take off my cover-up on the beach! It looks like March will be a race between letting a friend set me up on a blind date and pitching this blog... I sincerely hope people like reading it enough to start voting for it. This blind date business is hurting my #15 (stop biting nails)!
Happy Hump Day, my fabulous, faithful readers!
Monday, February 14, 2011
Days after this blog began, a colleague/friend approached me to moderate a group over the weekend. The purpose? Bring a handful of her friends together to address their goals for 2011; however, it transformed from an excuse for mimosas to the kick-off of a fresh start to all of our lives.
In conjunction w/ my colleague, the agenda was written, challenges were created and food was plentiful. While my role was to moderate the three hour discussion and ensure these ladies started off on the right path, they in turn provided me with a gift I didn’t even know I needed.
Have you ever felt like you were all alone, even when surrounded by people; or pondered if you were single because you’re not quite good enough? Have you wondered if you should know what you’re doing by now, but instead are spinning in circles? Have you ever asked yourself, “is this all there is to my life?” If so, welcome to the party.
After introductions, we jumped into each lovely lady’s goals. Tears fell, laughter spread, confessions were made and, to my surprise, this group of strong, successful women grew closer right before my eyes. And somewhere in the midst of this incredible madness, I finally felt like I had a purpose in life – help people find their way to success and happiness. To my surprise, I am GOOD at this, as in “I-could-really-make-a-difference” good. Ties in nicely with #19!
Not only have I become part of a spectacular group of friends, but the group is playing a major role in me achieving my own goals. You will hear more about these admirable women and their personal success in the coming year, but for now, I want to thank the ladies of The Summit – on Valentine’s Day - for helping me remember that along with loving my friends and family, I must learn to love myself before I can make a difference in the world.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Yesterday was bad, even for a Monday. Not due to overindulging in beverages at a Super Bowl party (though I ate my weight in buffalo chicken and spinach/artichoke dip...), but it was one of "those days" where the rut you're trying to escape is 12 feet deep and made of smooth marble.
If one more person asks when I was going to settle down, I will scream. No face, no name, but “they” say he’s out there. No number to call, yet I’m still suppose to believe. Not address to write, no dreamy kiss goodnight, yet I’m still suppose to believe there's someone for me? Speaking of addresses, Santa Claus has one. If I’m not suppose to believe in him, then why should I believe this “unlisted” Prince Charming exists? Speaking of Prince Charming, you know how they say if a teenage boy talks about sex, it means he isn't having it? Don’t you think Prince Charming is the same? If you have to tell us he’s charming, is he really a crass deadbeat?
I digress. While in the midst of my pathetic pity party, seven things happened.
- My favorite Bostonian couple announced they were prego... so excited for them! Alissa & Adnan - you'll be incredible parents!
- My favorite Orange County couple gave birth to a darling baby girl! Congrats, Tatum & Sam!
- A dear childhood friend went into labor and lost her first born. Amanda - you and Joe are in my thoughts, prayers and heart.
- One of my best friends learned her parents are parting. You know who you are... get ready for a spa/wine day... love ya and here if you need to chat.
- My bff (loved as a sister, even if we don't exactly look alike!) finally realized she is a commodity and shouldn't settle for less than the best.
- A fantastic colleague is prepping to undergo spinal surgery... thoughts are with ya, buddy!
- A client lost his two year battle with cancer... his family and colleagues are in my prayers.
In short, so many people near and dear to me are fighting their own battles, celebrating their own milestones and taking the next step on that twisty path we call life. How dare I think, even for a moment, that my pudgy singlehood trumps such life-changing events?
Last night, I looked again in the dreaded mirror. Was there a sun? Nope... just a girl with lines saying she's celebrated and laughed with the greatest of friends, a couple under-eye circles to reflect her hard work and a smile as she prepares to conquer the first day of the rest of her life.
As my dear friend Mel once told me, "the grass is greener where you water it." Break out the watering cans, people! On that note, have a great day!
Sunday, February 6, 2011
I created a "Skinny Super Bowl," consisting of filling decent-for-you ingredients. It averages about 210 per serving. If anyone is interested in the recipe, e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thanks to everyone for the comments, e-mails, retweets and reads to-date. Extra + Ordinary has officially hit more than 2,000 views... not bad, considering my posting hiatus during most of Sundance and only about 20 posts! The e-mails have been quite interesting with a number of questions. Expect a post in the next few days w/ a bit of Q&A.
Happy Super Bowl Sunday!
I checked out new eyeglasses at a boutique in Chicago's Lakeview neighborhood. Already set on what style and brand I wanted, it was a shock when the staff suggested a trendy pair that were totally not me... yet I had to have them. I was looking at myself in a new way, a new light...and, surprisingly, I liked it.
Coincidentally, the same thing is happening simultaneously in my personal life. Just because your mind is set on something and your heart beats for someone, that doesn't make it the path to happily ever after. I realized it is time to say goodbye to a life involving a positive person with a negative impact. Not removing said person, but merely looking at him in a different light - as a treasured platonic best friend who knows me unlike anyone else instead of as a potential future life partner prone to unintentionally hurting me.
I used to wish on stars that things could be different...better...perfect, but no matter how much we feel something is destined to be, Garth Brooks had it right - "sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers." And as I'm "looking back on the dance we shared," it dawned on me that so much of my inner strength was gained from the highest of highs and the lowest of lows with this very special man.
Through this life changing step, along with a few clothing donations, phone number removals, filing cabinet cleanses and Facebook deletions, I officially mark my negative influences goal complete. It will always be an ongoing battle, as new negative influences will likely arise, but for now, I can sleep peacefully.
On that note, good night!
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Most likely you'll hear about him this year in one of my 30 Influencers posts. For now, just know that #19 is underway!
Friday, February 4, 2011
In true "kill two birds with one stone" fashion, I was able to visit a new state (Utah) when volunteering at Sundance. Unbeknownst to me, another state would also make the list.
First you have to understand that I am skilled in many ways, but this country-raised girl may be the only living Iowan who can't navigate the roads. After driving through some powerful winds with blowing snow, I noticed that NOTHING looked familiar. Thinking I may have jusssst missed my turn, I decided to turn around at the next exit.
Strangely enough, there were suddenly big buildings for Black Cat fireworks. Odd, right? Well, as an Iowan who grew up only minutes away from the Missouri boarder, I knew what this meant. Yep, the "Welcome to Wyoming" sign was looking back at me.
A couple friends and I often had the debate of what constitutes as a visit. Is it driving through? Is it sleeping there? Having a meal? Well, to make sure this visit counted (and to ensure I made it to Park City, UTAH), I stopped for fuel, grabbed a breakfast sandwich and was on my merry way. So my friend Brenner couldn't contest the meal, I made sure it was eaten before I crossed back over the Utah boarder. :)
And that, kids, is how you turn a negative into a positive. Now if only I could figure out how to do that with my love life...